Couples Therapy
Couples counseling is for all couples –not just couples in distress and despair, but also for couples who want to build and maintain a strong foundation for their relationship so they can grow old together. Relationships are living things, and they require care and attention to keep growing!
But let’s face it – even the best couples have conflicts. What makes a relationship sustainable is not the absence of conflict, but it’s how a couple deals with it. In therapy with me, couples learn to understand what’s going on underneath the conflict and discover tools to handle conflict in the moment.
How Couples Therapy Works
For couples therapy to be effective, both partners need to feel heard and validated. Even when we talk about difficult topics, the focus will be on improving your connection – not on pointing fingers or assigning blame.
Together, we’ll make sense of where you’ve been stuck and find a way through the chaos. As we work through the painful emotions fueling your negative cycle, you’ll develop understanding and empathy for yourselves and each other, creating a safer, closer, and more satisfying connection. We’ll explore what each of you truly want and need, and discover new ways to define who you are in relation to each other. You have the ability to reconnect and rebuild a deep bond, in whatever form that takes, and we’ll navigate that path together.
Common Topics in Couples Therapy
Communication/Conflict
Infidelity/Betrayal
Pre-marital/Commitment
Sexual Intimacy/Concerns
Divorce/Uncoupling
My enthusiasm for couples work began…
…after a cycle of crisis and healing in my own marriage. After over twenty years of building a life together, raising a family, and believing things were just fine, we suddenly recognized how disconnected our relationship had become. That realization brought our relationship to a crossroads, forcing us to ask - do we walk away, or do we dig in and see what is possible?
I am incredibly grateful for that experience and the relationship we have today. It’s not perfect, but after nearly thirty years together, we are so much more connected, vulnerable, and quick to make repair.
